Psychologists describe a phenomenon called fundamental attribution error, which explains her [math teacher's] inclination to initially judge this boy negatively based on his behaviors. Stated simply, when observing the behavior of others, most people tend to rely too much on personality-based explanations and rely too little on situational explanations.
via Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps: Be Careful of How You Judge Others and Yourself « The Art of Relationships.
When I met my therapist last week, we were talking about behavior. I talked about something stupid I was doing, and something stupid I perceived someone else was doing. He said all behavior was a solution to something. The solution may be a good one or “mal-adaptive”–his better word than my “stupid.”
He also said no one was immune to poor behavior.
And he suggested that the appropriate stance was to be curious about the solution chosen, what was the source problem?
As [the teacher] talked with him, she learned that he also had two friends who recently died. After this conversation, he listened well in class and “aced” the tests. She ended her letter with the realization, “And I thought he was the one not paying attention.”
This very human failing [fundamental attribution error] can cause people to make snap judgments that are inaccurate, or at least don’t capture the whole picture.
This dynamic is complicated by the fact that people are much more inclined to blame their own problems on the situation than on themselves.
Leslie goes on the acknowledge that the opposite is true (blame self vs. situation) for many other people. I wonder if it is situational or more consistently personality driven: i.e. in some contexts (the office, the yoga studio, the tennis court … ) is someone is more apt to blame the situation then self?
